Is infidelity a gendered thing? Are men more prone to cheating, or do women get into affairs when the emotional and physical intimacy go down?
The question is an interesting one, and it has occupied our minds for centuries. In fact, even studies have been carried out to discover the answer.
If you’re curious to find the answer, we’ll check out the science and the research together. Eventually, we should be capable of coming up with a valid conclusion.
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What Science Has to Say
Anyone who has gone through infidelity has their own theory, but that’s anecdotal evidence. Surprisingly enough, large scale studies have been carried out several times through the years to try finding the answer.
The US General Social Survey is one of the studies that has focused on the question.
According to the study, men are more likely to cheat on their partners. In the study, 20 per cent of the male participants and 13 per cent of the female participants acknowledged that they’d had sex with someone out of their relationship.
It’s interesting to point out that the gender gap increases with age. The older a man gets, the more likely he is to cheat. On the contrary, after the age of 60, women become much less likely to engage in an affair than their partners.
Truth About Deception is another ongoing study that focuses on the topic of infidelity. Anyone can participate in the survey, and by now, there are 62,600 participating women and 31,975 participating men.
Of the women participating in the survey, 53 per cent reported having a one-night stand and also 53 per cent of the cheaters confirmed being unfaithful to their partner more than one time. Among the male participants, 72 per cent confirmed having a one-night stand, and 67 per cent said that they’d cheated on their partner more than once.
Since the Truth About Deception study is ongoing, the chances are that the percentages will change in the future. For the time being, however, the survey confirms the theory that men are unfaithful more often than women.
Finally, let’s conclude the scientific section with a fairly recent study from the UK. BBC published the results of the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles that paints a fairly similar picture. Of the male participants in the survey, 15 per cent confirmed having an affair. The same was true for only nine per cent of the participating women.
Why Are Men More Likely to Cheat?
Now that we have the numbers, the question of reasoning arises. Why do men cheat more often? Is it a gender difference or a culturally-enforced norm when it comes to “differing” sexualities?
Psychologists believe that men are more capable of compartmentalizing their sexual infidelity than women. This means that the emotional impact of the affair isn’t that big and most often, it’s purely a physical thing. Hence, it’s possible for someone to love their spouse in a sincere manner while having sex with somebody else.
It’s also possible for the numbers to be distorted.
Some research suggests that women are more likely to admit to infidelity and get caught.
Scientists also believe that evolution is somewhat to blame for the more frequent cheating by guys.
According to clinical research, the sexual pursuit area in the male brain is nearly 2.5 times larger than the same region in the female brain. Men acknowledge that they masturbate more often than women do, and the primary reason is unfulfilled sexual desires.
When people get into a long-term relationship, passion does tend to subside. Intimacy also becomes familiar sooner or later. And while there’s nothing wrong with such a natural progression, it completely kills the excitement of a new conquest.
Some couples find ways to overcome this eventual sexual boredom. Sex toys and experimentation provide opportunities to keep things fresh and exciting. HotCherry is famous for its slogan, “bringing sexual happiness to all.” When the services of such adult toy companies get employed, it’s possible to avoid the inevitable progression of a relationship.
Obviously, these are generalized theories. They don’t apply to all men as the vast majority of them will not cheat. Still, some biological differences and the cultural acceptance of extramarital sex (especially when a man is involved) could be contributing factors to the fairly pronounced gender gap.
Monogamy Is Natural and It Can Be Fun
Some proponents of extramarital relationships suggest that monogamy is unnatural, and we’ve been forced into it by cultural norms.
But is this really the case? Are we meant to switch up our sexual partners every once in a while?
Regardless of claims that monogamy is manmade and culturally-enforced, this isn’t the case. In fact, various other biological species are known for their monogamous choices of sexual partners. Some animals actually find a mate for life and they never switch things up.
Gibbons are one example of a species that comes close to humankind and that finds a partner for life. The same is true for many bird species and for some other mammals.
While cultures are accepting of polygamy, the general consensus is that we’re meant to have one partner and be loyal.
The earliest human ancestors were definitely not monogamous. They lived in large communities where men and women mated freely with each other without additional restrictions. In time, however, monogamy has emerged as the primary model of seeking out a partner and creating offspring.
Needless to say, monogamy is not going to work for everyone. There are people in poly relationships and people who don’t want an actual emotional connection with a single partner. What matters in such instances is upfront honesty. If everyone is on the same page as far as boundaries and relationship parameters go, the risk of serious disappointment and people getting hurt would be minimal.
In today’s world, men are more likely to cheat than women. Whether biological or cultural factors are to blame, the fact persists. Contemporary romantic interactions are pretty complex and sexual liberation is getting things to become even more complicated. This is why the importance of boundaries and good communication needs to be emphasized from an early age. If people are honest and upfront about their needs, the desire to cheat would definitely subside.
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