What is love
Love is relationship.
Must love be so difficult for one to comprehend? Should it be so difficult for one to demonstrate?
This is a very simple question, but most of us are not quick to answer. The question,’what is love?’ mostly put us in a state of thinking, as to which words exactly one needs you.
There are so many interesting definitions of what love is, and the kind of love that exist.
I want to answer this question from my personal experience and my understanding of love.
Love, by most people is the special feeling you have towards someone that makes your either do the unthinkable or things you will previously not subject yourself to.
Many people have come-up with very interesting quotes on love, but in most cases those definitions are relative to various contexts; though we often agree that they are making sense.
Before I end this article, you will appreciate my definition of what love is, and how best we can demonstrate it.
My simple definition of love is the ability to share with someone.
If you cannot share, you can not love, and you won’t find yourself demonstrating it no matter how hard you want to try.
Our biggest need as people is to belong, to be in a relationship; To have a spiritual and emotional home.
The very nature of God is to be in relationship, for God is love.
Per my understanding, love began with God. That is why the bible says “God is love”. I prefer how the Amplified version of the Bible puts it. According to 1 John 4:8 Amplified Bible (AMP): 8 The one who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love. [He is the originator of love, and it is an enduring attribute of His nature.]
For a long time, the attention of God has been on His chosen people, the Israelites, but He did something remarkable for the world through love. This time it was for everyone and not the Jews only.
God in demonstrating his love to us shared a precious gift with us.
According to John 3:16 Amplified Bible (AMP): 16 “For God so [greatly] loved and dearly prized the world, that He [even] gave His [One and] [a]only begotten Son, so that whoever believes and trusts in Him [as Savior] shall not perish, but have eternal life.
The almighty God proved his love by given us his only begotten son as a sacrificial lamp for our SIN. This was God expressing His true nature to us.
Love is an extension of our own true nature. What we are, we attract.
As a born-again Christian, it should be easy for you to love because you have the spirit of God ( the Holy Spirit) in you.
You cannot say you love someone when you are not willing to share. The act of sharing here is very relative. You can share your time, financial resource, material resource, psychological resource, etc.
According to Mark 12:30-31 New King James Version (NKJV): 30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’[a] This is the first commandment.[b] 31 And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’[c] There is no other commandment greater than these.”
From the above scripture, God is admonishing us to love everybody (neighbour) whether we are in good terms with them or not. Even that street child or person, God expects us to show them love.
We may have different degrees of how to express this love depending on who we are dealing with. I won’t expect to see the same level of love you share with your partner or close family /relative, or in some case some close friends, to be the same as what you show a stranger.
There is an ingredient that makes love vary in many forms.
This ingredient is like.
The level of your likeness in someone, depends how great your love towards that person will be.
Even with God, I can say God loves everybody (John 3:16) this includes both sinners and believers, but God likes a chosen few. These are people who are committed to serving God, and also observing His commandments. You move God to do the unimaginable when you get Him to like you.
The Bible records many wonderful things God will do for you in such a state. According to Exodus 23:25 New King James Version (NKJV): 25 “So you shall serve the Lord your God, and He will bless your bread and your water. And I will take sickness away from the midst of you.
In Acts 13: 22, we have God testify saying ” I have found David[a] the son of Jesse, a man after My own heart, who will do all My will.”
Even in our homes, our parents my favour some of our siblings more than us, it does not mean they don’t love us; it’s simply they preferring that sibling more than us due to some reasons. That is why, we can hear a father say “This is my son, and refer to another as one of my children.”
At this point, I want us to appreciate the distinction between being loved and being preferred (liked).
We are commanded to love as Christians, but it is optional to like someone.
You are to love your enemy does not mean you should pretend and hug them when you don’t want to. Being nice to someone does not mean, you have to do things you are personally not comfortable doing. There is no blessing in that.
You love best when you know God more. True love has its foundation with a close relationship with God.
According to 2 Timothy 1:7 New King James Version (NKJV): 7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
With God, you have true love and this frees you from any form of fear. Anytime you say “you love someone”, and you still have fear in that relationship, I will advice you to check it. If someone loves you back, that person will make sure every form of fear is eliminated because that person knows God.
I will liken the love of an unbeliever to lust.
If you understand love from God’s concept you won’t be moved to do somethings others do.
Let me share with you some characteristics of love according to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.
Characteristics of love
- love suffers long and is kind;
- love does not envy;
- love does not parade itself,
- is not puffed up;
- does not behave rudely,
- does not seek its own,
- is not provoked,
- thinks no evil;
- does not rejoice in iniquity,
- but rejoices in the truth;
- bears all things,
- believes all things,
- hopes all things,
- endures all things.
- Love never fails.
In conclusion, I want to reaffirm the need for love in our lives. You can’t even please God if you can’t love. Let us make the conscious effort to extend some form of love to the people around us. Lets make this world a better place for us all.
Jesus loves you!