It was an evening that could have qualified as a great one except for the fact that I was bereft of “home-chow” (home-cooked food). Slightly annoyed with no one in particular, I sat in a nondescript restaurant and grudgingly swallowed the balls of rice that sat before me until my mind interrupted my ingestion process. “It’s not enough to have role models”, it intimated. “Everyone must have an Avoidance Model”. “Where from this one too?”, I asked myself. “I’m eating”, I told myself off. “Think about it”, my mind persisted. So I gave it some thought of course without ceasing from swallowing my rice balls. I may be angry at it but I will still pay for it.
Role models are individuals whose life, achievement and influence epitomize how we would want our lives to look like. Their successes create powerful images of what we want to be. But we all also need to have an Avoidance Model; people whose lives represent the kind of life we don’t want to have. It’s not enough to know the good and aspire to it. You must also identify the bad and desist from it. So if a parent curtailed his destiny by making many wrong choices, he is your Avoidance Model. You must respect and honor him as a parent but you must keep in mind that his life is one you must avoid at all costs.
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If you had a horrible boss who breathed fire on you and gave you no peace at work, that’s your Avoidance Model. He is a symbol of the kind of leader you must not become. If you were with a partner who gave you a bad experience, that’s your Avoidance Model. It should inspire to not give a similar experience to someone else. In both the Bible and contemporary times, we can find many people who must be strong warnings against the kind of life we must avoid at all costs; people whose lifestyle, habits and choices led them away from the great destiny God had bestowed on them. David is a role model of mine. He was a man of character who refused to attack a boss who had plotted to kill him severally. Saul is my Avoidance Model. He was an insecure leader who could not countenance the gift and blessing of others. Mensa Otabil is my role model. He exemplifies the kind of impact and contribution I want to make with my life. …….is my Avoidance Model. Lol
Look around you; in life some people are examples to follow, others are a warning to avoid.
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